How many of us can truly say “I Love Myself” and mean it.

For about the first 34 years of my life I didn’t like anything about myself, inside or out. I never really knew where these feelings came from or why I felt this way but they were very strong feelings. I had a very low self esteem and was a very negative angry person.  I always told myself that I had to like something though, so I made myself like the colour of my hair and my eyes and somehow that helped.


The way we feel about ourselves can have a huge effect on the way we behave around others and how we live our lives. We are all on our own unique journeys through life, some of us better than others at dealing with things and how they affect us.

We should all love ourselves, for if we do not love ourselves, how can we expect others to love us!


There are many things we can do to help us to be happy with who we are and I would like to share some of the things that I have learnt on my journey, the things that I have done that helped bring me the positive life I lead now.


First I did tie cutting and lots of it, with lots of different people. Ties are energy that we create between us with our words and thoughts. That energy can hold us to a person. Wedding vows are particularly powerful, so when a marriage ends in divorce it is essential to tie cut.


Then I did something I now call mirror work. This works by sitting comfortably in front of a mirror and you start off by looking at your face, take in every detail, look at your hair, your lips, your chin. Now take your awareness to your eyes, look into your eyes, gaze deeply into them, how does this make you feel? Do you feel love, sadness, anger, pity? Now ask yourself why you feel like that. Most importantly acknowledge those feelings and wrap yourself in love, the way you would send a friend love if they were feeling like this.

Do this over a period of time, until  you feel nothing but love for yourself when you look into your eyes. Trust me, when you achieve this it is a beautiful feeling.


I changed my thoughts too. Every time I found myself saying ” I’m not clever enough to do that”,  ” no one would want me” or thinking that other people were more important than me, I changed my thought patterns and began to tell myself ” I could do that” “ why wouldn’t they want me” and I am just as important as the next person because we are all equal.


I also started to meditate and now do this regularly.


I hope that by sharing this it might help somebody to acknowledge and change the way they feel about themselves.


If you feel you need a bit of help then please feel free to get in touch.


Good luck on your journey.


Love and Light